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“You’re Judging Me”

I’ve noticed a trend lately on quite a few blog comments.  There is this quickness to be offended.  Everyone wants to jump up and say, “But, but, you’re judging me!”  That drives me mad!

First off, as the new, proud owner of this here blog, I know first hand that just because a person has a blog that does not make them an expert.  Some random person on the internet posts something that somehow offends you.  Who is this person anyhow?  How can what they think and say really have that much impact on what you choose to do?

Next, there is such a thing as discernment.  I will not entrust my children to just anyone.  Am I judging you for not letting you watch my kids?  Should I even care that I’ve offended you?  That’s called discernment; checking out a situation before putting myself into it.

I won’t use formula.  I’ll make my own before I give my babies anything other than breast milk.  I’m aware that I just offended a whole group of women (if they were reading this anyhow).  Somehow that sparks the biggest, “you’re judging me” round of comments.  In somehow making a decision and making that decision public I’m judging an entire group of the population unknowingly.

How about we agree to disagree, sometimes?  Why can’t we just step back and admire that there are people different from us, who make wildly different choices with their lives.  Instead of being offended or quick to defend ourselves, why can’t we say, “good for you, I’m genuinely happy that way worked for you.”?!  But, instead we say, “Stop judging me”.

Of course, I suppose, I’ve just offended another group of people out there… Oops.